Tough Love

Stand Over - March 2014

Stand Over – March 2014

Last night the Emmaus guys had a “Stand Over.” This is an event involving laser tag, late night stories, chips and salsa and a Bible study.

Dan Seidelman spoke on “Tough Love” from 1 Corinthians 13. Here are some tweetable lines from his challenging and convicting devotional.

  • Love is not for the fainthearted. Love is willing to endure hardships done to itself without becoming bitter.
  • Love covers a multitude of sins. If someone wrongs you, you don’t go on Facebook and passively aggressively reference them in your status.
  • Love does not just bear all things, it endures all things. Love is taking up curses, slander and putting up with someone for their good.
  • Love keeps no record of wrong. If we are loving, we are not keeping a mental record of wrong.
  • If you want to be loving, you have to be tough. If you want to be tough, you have to be loving. 
  • We should only point out faults in others in order to cause them to love the Lord. 
  • Love is ruthless. Love is going to ruthlessly battle self. When we are loving, we are actively engaging our own pride. 
  • Love does not envy. Love is not upset when others have good done to them. Love cannot exist when everyone is concerned about themselves. 
  • Love does not talk about how great we are and try to grasp honor. Love is not arrogant.
  • We should congratulate others.
  • Love is an utter enemy to selfishness. Love does not demand preferences. 
  • Love is a gentlemen. Every situation has its own cultural setting and we should love those in that culture and not rebel. You need to know where you are, what is required of you and how you can serve others. 
  • Love searches out ways to be good to each other. Love is holding the door open for people behind you. Love is showing respect to all people. We cannot neglect the most basic things. 
  • Love restrains its emotions and keeps passions within its reasonable limits. 
  • Love believes all things and hopes all things – If we are able to interpret someone’s action sinisterly or graciously, we should always choose grace.  

Stand Over: March 2014


What: Stand Over at the Dan Seidelman’s place.

Who: Emmaus Guys (6th-12th)

When: March 28nd 7pm – March 29th 10am.

What: Laser Tag ($7 per game), a sleep over, and a devotion on setting the standard for believers in love.

Where: Meet at Lazer Blaze at 7pm and then spend the night at Dan’s Apartment

This is the second in a series on 1 Timothy 4:12

Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.

Day of Snow Tubing


Who: Families and Students (Ages 7+)

  •  A children’s area is available for children ages 3-6, subject to snow availability. Adult supervision is required.

What: Day of Snow Tubing

When: January 2, 2014

  • Meet at Crossing at 9:00am and return to Crossing at 5:00pm

Where: Perfect North Slopes

  • 19074 Perfect Pl Ln. Lawrenceburg, IN 47025
  • 1:40 minute drive from Crossing
  • More information and photos can be found at their website.

Cost: $20 for a full day of tubing

  • Bring approximately $10 per person for lunch. You can view the lunch menu here.

RSVP: Sean Perron –

What to Bring: 

Here is the of recommended items for you to bring:

  • Hat – if your head is warm the rest of you is likely to stay warm.
  • Waterproof Gloves/Mittens – mittens are warmest.
  • Goggles/Sunglasses – Goggles are strongly recommended on cold or snowy days for warmth and increased visibility.
  • Jacket/Parka (water resistant)
  • Synthetic or wool base layers for top & bottom – it’s better to be warm than cold, you can always shed layers. Synthetic materials help to wisk moisture away from your skin. Once again, do not wear cotton as a base layer.
  • Snow/Water resistant pants – very important, your 1st day will acquaint your butt to the snow, keep it warm & dry.
  • Warm, dry socks – No cotton. Wear only one pair of socks.
  • Sunscreen – SPF 15 or higher
  • Snack, Fruit, Energy Bar
  • ID, Wallet, Cash or major credit card.
  • Extra Clothes, Shoes – to change into when you’re all done, in order to go out and celebrate your 1st day.

Set the Standard in Speech

by Dan Seidelman

by Dan Seidelman

A few weeks ago, the men in Emmaus had a Stand Over event at the Perron home.

During the event, youth leader Dan Seidelman gave a Bible Study on setting the standard in speech. His talk focused on boldness and humility. Below are the notes from his devotional.

17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. 18 All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; 19 that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. 20 Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. 21 For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. (2 Corinthians 5:17-21, ESV)

Big Idea: A Boldness Problem is not so much a Speech Problem as it is a Worship Problem.

1) The old man cares about making much of ourselves – 17b.

  • This is who we are before we accepted Christ, we care about mainly (maybe even only) about ourselves.  We want all the glory, we protect ourselves, we exalt ourselves, we advocate for ourselves.

  • Therefore, we don’t have boldness for Christ.  We proclaim ourselves, not Jesus.  For what we proclaim is not ourselves, but Jesus Christ as Lord, with ourselves as your servants for Jesus’ sake. – 2 Cor 4:5

  • Part of this is that we want to protect ourselves and our reputation.  For the word of the cross is folly to those who are perishing (1 Cor 1:18)  We do not look like a fool, proclaiming the cross will make us look like one.

2) Transformative power of Union with Christ – 17-19, 21.

  • The old man cares for ourselves, but when we come to Christ we realize that we are not that #1.

  • Salvation is the absolute basis for boldness in Christ.  We can’t muster it up.

  • Justification- vs 21 – For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.  Legal double imputation – Jesus takes all our sin upon Himself and gives us all of his righteousness.

    • “The essence of sin is man substituting himself for God, while the essence of salvation is God substituting himself for man. Man asserts himself against God and puts himself where only God deserves to be; God sacrifices himself for man and puts himself where only man deserves to be. Man claims prerogatives that belong to God alone; God accepts penalties that belong to man alone.” -John Stott, The Cross of Christ.

  • Newnes has come (17-19).  We are not what we used to be.  We are not old people with new features, we are new people with old residue.

  • Unity in Christ – v 17 – if anyone is in Christ.  Who we are doesn’t matter, we are wrapped up in who Jesus is.  He is the truest thing about us.

3) Union leads to boldness and humility – 20.

  • Because of who we are in Christ, we are ambassadors for Christ.  We can be bold because it’s not about us, but about Jesus.

  • If we are rejected, it does not matter, in Christ we are accepted.

  • Our One Message: be reconciled to God.

Three Ways Union w/ Christ leads to Boldness:

  1. Fear of results in talking to an unbeliever

    • What might happen to me?  I could be hurt.  Not so much here in America, but hopefully God sends us places other than here.  Paul had this attitude in Phil 1:21 – For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain.  A man with his identity so wrapped up in Christ is invincible.  If you let him live, he peaches  Christ,  if you kill him, even better.  You don’t get to a place like this any other way than knowing Christ.

    • Fear of looking like a fool. – The message is folly to those who don’t believe – 1 Cor 1:27, But God chose what is foolish in the world to shame the wise; God chose what is weak in the world to shame the strong.  People will think you are foolish.  But, when we trust God and find our meaning in Him, we know that it’s actually not.  He will be pleased with us, not others.  And that’s what matters.

  2. Fear of confronting a believer

    • Your hypocrisy could be pointed out.  But what we preach is not ourselves – 2 cor 4 – we have His treasure in jars of clay, the power comes from God.  Admit, Yes, I’m a sinner but God forgave me.  That’s who we are in Christ.  We’re repenting, we’re not perfect.

    • Our duty outweighs our doubt.  If we are in Christ, and his message was reconciliation, our message is reconciliation.  My brothers, if anyone among you wanders from the truth and someone brings him back, let him know that whoever brings back a sinner from his wandering will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins. (Jas 5:19-20)

  3. Fear of exposing ourselves.

    • We don’t want to be exposed as being weak.  But in publically coming to Christ we’re saying we’re sinners, we’re messed up, we can’t do it right.  Then why are we surprised when we’re sinners, we mess up, we can’t do it right?

    • There is nothing you can tell another that Jesus doesn’t already know and His blood doesn’t already cover.  Jesus’ blood already covers our sin, this is the promise of the gospel.  Therefore, we are free to confess it to one another.

Uganda Missions Trip 2014

by Sean Perron

by Sean Perron

Emmaus has an incredible opportunity to travel overseas for the sake of the gospel. God is doing an incredible work in Uganda through Sufficiency of Scripture ministries and we want to partner with them in July 2014 in conjunction with the D3 Conference.

During the missions trip, here are some of the things the Emmaus students will be able to experience:

  • One-on-one discipleship for 18 days
  • Numerous opportunities to share Christ with hundreds of children, high school students and locals.
  • Lead Bible story lessons for Ugandan schools
  • Serve the local Uganda church and learn from their leaders
  • Interact with missionaries on the field
  • Build life long relationships with the missions team

Consider partnering with us for this adventure and be sure to visit the D3 Uganda Mission Trip website.

There will be more information given about the trip at an upcoming parents meeting at Crossing Church.